The Difference Between Worth, Self-Esteem, and Good Works
The concepts of worth, self-esteem, and good works are related but distinct, particularly from an LDS perspective. Understanding the differences and how they interact can impact how your feel about yourself, how you parent, where you choose to spend your time and energy, your “why,” and how you respond to yourself when you make a mistake.
1. Worth:
Definition: Worth is inherent and unchanging. It is the intrinsic value that each one of us possesses as a child of God, created in His image. Worth is not something that can be earned, increased, or diminished; it simply is.
LDS Perspective: The doctrine of divine worth teaches us that every individual has infinite and eternal value. This worth is independent of behavior, achievements, or external validation. The Savior’s Atonement underscores this truth, showing that every single one of us is worth the ultimate sacrifice.
Key Attribute: Unconditional, unchanging, and eternal.
Example: A person struggling with mistakes or failure is still infinitely valuable in God’s eyes. Their worth remains intact regardless of their current circumstances.
2. Self-Esteem:
Definition: Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself, how well you value and respect yourself. It is a perception of your own abilities, influenced by experiences, feedback, accomplishments, and internal beliefs.
LDS Perspective: While worth is eternal, self-esteem can fluctuate. The gospel teaches that understanding your divine worth can anchor, or is the foundation of your self-esteem, helping you see yourself through God’s eyes rather than the lens of worldly standards or personal insecurities.
Key Attribute: Subject to change and influenced by external and internal factors. How well your choices are in alignment with your values.
Example: A woman who understands her divine worth but is critical of herself when she fails at being perfect might struggle with self-esteem. However, through spiritual practices and affirmations of truth, self-esteem can become healthier.
3. Good Works:
Definition: Good works are the actions we take to live a Christlike life, including serving others, obeying commandments, and striving for personal righteousness. These actions reflect your love for God and gratitude for His blessings, love for others, and even love for yourself.
LDS Perspective: Good works will not increase your worth. Doing good works shows your faith, demonstrates discipleship, and aligns yourselves with God’s will. They help you grow spiritually, refine your character, and bless others.
Key Attribute: Evidence of faith and love for God, others, even yourself; a way to grow and progress.
Example: Volunteering to help those in need, keeping the commandments, and striving to live the gospel reflect good works that bring us closer to God and strengthen our faith.
How They Interact:
Worth is the foundation. It’s eternal and unchanging, providing the spiritual bedrock for your identity.
Self-esteem is influenced by how well you internalize your worth and navigate life’s challenges. Self-esteem is influenced by your choices and can increase or decrease.
Good works are an outward expression of your understanding of divine worth and a way to build self-esteem by living with purpose and serving others. Good works do not increase your worth. They can increase your self-esteem if doing good works aligns with your values.
By being connected to your divine worth, building healthy self-esteem, and engaging in good works, you can live a life that is joyful, purposeful, and aligned with God’s plan.
